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February 3, 2012
15:27
Ever wonder why that one gay friend can't seem to cooperate when the group gets together? You're trying to order and he's being the complicated order? A recent study suggests that his ego and his refusal to go along with the group may be a result of too much testosterone. Read more...
Testosterone Made Him Do It originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Friday, February 3rd, 2012 at 19:27:30.
February 1, 2012
05:55
Relationships aren't on everyone's radar. And even if they are, many guys stay open to hooking up on the path to whatever they are looking for. Meeting guys for random fun can be a wonderful thing or a complete disaster depending on what you do before, during and after hooking up. Read more...
The Hookup Manual: Do's and Don'ts originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Wednesday, February 1st, 2012 at 09:55:32.
January 26, 2012
09:20
There's a new risk of cancer in men from a virus mostly associated with women. HPV is a growing concern for gay men and can lead to anal cancer. New research suggests that what's being called oral HPV can lead to higher risks of throat, neck and head cancers as well. Here's what you should know about oral HPV prevention.
A Nasty STD You Didn't Know About originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Thursday, January 26th, 2012 at 13:20:52.
January 23, 2012
12:11
New research suggests that there's more to what you see than you think. Good memory or bad, your ability to recognize a face in a crowd has something to do with who you are (for instance, left-brained or right-brained), but more so where you've been. Read more...
Why You Never Forget A Guy's Face originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Monday, January 23rd, 2012 at 16:11:48.
January 19, 2012
13:22
You're out!
These are dreaded words in most social circles and group environments, but for the gay loner or shy guy sometimes that's exactly where they want to be.
Our lives are becoming increasingly social, where even a trip to the grocery store warrants a status update. Much of our gay lives are defined by social scenes: prides, parties, dating sites, hobby groups, etc. Group implies just that—more than one.
So what of the gay guy, the shy one, the loner, that prefers small groups over mass hysteria? Are they outcasts, social morons or freaks? Or are are they as happy as can be? Read more...
These are dreaded words in most social circles and group environments, but for the gay loner or shy guy sometimes that's exactly where they want to be.
Our lives are becoming increasingly social, where even a trip to the grocery store warrants a status update. Much of our gay lives are defined by social scenes: prides, parties, dating sites, hobby groups, etc. Group implies just that—more than one.
So what of the gay guy, the shy one, the loner, that prefers small groups over mass hysteria? Are they outcasts, social morons or freaks? Or are are they as happy as can be? Read more...
The Shy Guy, The Gay Loner: If You're Not In, You're Out (Exactly Where You Want To Be) originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Thursday, January 19th, 2012 at 17:22:48.
January 16, 2012
03:46
I'd like to honor Martin Luther King, Jr. Day with a tribute to one of his closest confidants, Bayard Rustin.
In 1937, at the age of 25, Bayard Rustin—an openly gay man—started training at the American Friends Service Committee. By 1963 he was one of the most important figures in African-American and glbt history.
Bayard Rustin was recruited by Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. to organize the Montgomery Bus Boycott and the 1963 March on Washington where King gave his famed "I Have A Dream" speech. Both King and Rustin saw an injustice in this country and the world and worked in peace to create change.
On this MLK Day, I think back to the contributions these great men made for me, my family, and this country; and the brevity of Mr. Rustin, who served with our greatest leader at a time when being an openly gay man was met with the same hostility as being a person of color.
The magnitude of injustices in the world can be overwhelming, and our individual contributions can often seem insignificant. But like us, Dr. King and Mr. Rustin had no special powers or abilities. They had dreams and an undying commitment to creating change. They then used their strengths of speech and mobilization toward a common cause, efforts that we will forever be greatful for.
More about Dr. King's colleague and friend Bayard Rustin after the jump.
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Notable Gay Men in History
In 1937, at the age of 25, Bayard Rustin—an openly gay man—started training at the American Friends Service Committee. By 1963 he was one of the most important figures in African-American and glbt history.
Bayard Rustin was recruited by Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. to organize the Montgomery Bus Boycott and the 1963 March on Washington where King gave his famed "I Have A Dream" speech. Both King and Rustin saw an injustice in this country and the world and worked in peace to create change.
On this MLK Day, I think back to the contributions these great men made for me, my family, and this country; and the brevity of Mr. Rustin, who served with our greatest leader at a time when being an openly gay man was met with the same hostility as being a person of color.
The magnitude of injustices in the world can be overwhelming, and our individual contributions can often seem insignificant. But like us, Dr. King and Mr. Rustin had no special powers or abilities. They had dreams and an undying commitment to creating change. They then used their strengths of speech and mobilization toward a common cause, efforts that we will forever be greatful for.
More about Dr. King's colleague and friend Bayard Rustin after the jump.
More:
Notable Gay Men in History
Remembering Bayard Rustin originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Monday, January 16th, 2012 at 07:46:11.
January 13, 2012
11:01
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Is it crystal clear with things you wish you could change and fuzzy when it comes to good thoughts about your body?
A lot of gay men suffer from body image issues such as Body Dimorphic Disorder that spoil the way we see ourselves. But there is a remedy that just might make you the sexiest man alive.
A lot of gay men suffer from body image issues such as Body Dimorphic Disorder that spoil the way we see ourselves. But there is a remedy that just might make you the sexiest man alive.
You Just Might Be The Sexiest Man Alive originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Friday, January 13th, 2012 at 15:01:46.
January 11, 2012
09:20
It's almost the middle of January. Can you believe it?
The good news is 2012 is well under way. Your resolutions are written down (hopefully) and in process. The bad news: Science says only 12 percent of you will make it to the finish line.
But, you can defy the odds with four secrets to making your resolutions a reality.
The good news is 2012 is well under way. Your resolutions are written down (hopefully) and in process. The bad news: Science says only 12 percent of you will make it to the finish line.
But, you can defy the odds with four secrets to making your resolutions a reality.
The Secret To Keeping Your Resolutions Alive originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Wednesday, January 11th, 2012 at 13:20:04.
January 7, 2012
16:58
Fear is all around us, especially as gay men. We fear coming out, then when we're out we fear being alone, losing family and friends, and a parade full of other phobias.
How do you get over fear?
Everything you need to know is in the ultimate fighting ring. New research shows how MMA fighters turn fear into confidence. You too can fight through fear in three moves.
How do you get over fear?
Everything you need to know is in the ultimate fighting ring. New research shows how MMA fighters turn fear into confidence. You too can fight through fear in three moves.
Gut Check: 3 Ways To Fight Through Fear originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Saturday, January 7th, 2012 at 20:58:49.
January 5, 2012
14:20
Do you still battle with father-son issues? Have you heard that some are saying "father hunger" or daddy issues are why you're gay? I look into this hunger for masculinity to see if there is truth in the testosterone. Read more...
Can You Really Let Your Daddy Issues Go? originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Thursday, January 5th, 2012 at 18:20:36.
January 4, 2012
20:30
Experts say LGBT people have a better chance at happiness and success when we have supportive family members and friends. According to researchers, family can create protective bubbles for us against negativity and destructive behavior.
One thing the experts overlook is that this "protection" is contingent upon acceptance, which can turn a hero into a victim. Read more...
One thing the experts overlook is that this "protection" is contingent upon acceptance, which can turn a hero into a victim. Read more...
The One Mistake You're Making With Family originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Thursday, January 5th, 2012 at 00:30:07.
January 3, 2012
10:18
Top or bottom doesn't say much about what we want in the bedroom. The words describe certain obvious activities, but they say little about desire.
January 2, 2012
14:42
Haven't you heard? Men don't cry, so man up! This applies to you too, gay man. It isn't that you like other guys; it's that you are emotional and weak.
Sound familiar? It's what society tells us in many silent and not-so-quiet ways at every turn of our day. The message is so strong we take over in private and tell ourselves this, and frankly even more damaging things.
New research shows that those voices in society have it all wrong. While culture is allergic to men and emotions; it's the man that can express his emotions and empathize with those of others that is most successful. Read more...
Sound familiar? It's what society tells us in many silent and not-so-quiet ways at every turn of our day. The message is so strong we take over in private and tell ourselves this, and frankly even more damaging things.
New research shows that those voices in society have it all wrong. While culture is allergic to men and emotions; it's the man that can express his emotions and empathize with those of others that is most successful. Read more...
Are You Emotional Enough? originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Monday, January 2nd, 2012 at 18:42:28.
December 30, 2011
10:13
Goals are great, but harder to achieve when you share them with others, according to recent research.
We all know the discouraging impact negative comments have on our motivation, but surprisingly researchers at New York University say positive affirmation can have equally negative effects.
The recommendation? Keep your goals to yourself. See why...
We all know the discouraging impact negative comments have on our motivation, but surprisingly researchers at New York University say positive affirmation can have equally negative effects.
The recommendation? Keep your goals to yourself. See why...
Want To Succeed? Keep Your Goals To Yourself originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Friday, December 30th, 2011 at 14:13:18.
December 29, 2011
16:48
We're all shopaholics with a meticulous eye for color coordination. Or are we?
I must admit that I've known a few straight men that turn both male and female eyes with their sense of taste in clothing and home design. Even so, gay men in general tend to put more effort into their gear and dwellings than our straight cousins.
I must admit that I've known a few straight men that turn both male and female eyes with their sense of taste in clothing and home design. Even so, gay men in general tend to put more effort into their gear and dwellings than our straight cousins.
December 27, 2011
16:06
As gay men, how can we understand ourselves without knowing what motivates other men? One researcher says the answer to understanding men is found in just four personality types.
The idea is that if your boyfriend or dating hopeful fits into one of these boxes, then you'll know him better and can predict what he'll do next?
I ask if a Cosmo quiz for male personality types really exists and what happens when we fall out of line?
The idea is that if your boyfriend or dating hopeful fits into one of these boxes, then you'll know him better and can predict what he'll do next?
I ask if a Cosmo quiz for male personality types really exists and what happens when we fall out of line?
The 4 Personality Types in Men originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Tuesday, December 27th, 2011 at 20:06:39.
December 23, 2011
16:27
We're days off of Christmas, one of the most crazed Christian holidays. So while we're in a sharing mood why not talk about gay men and religion?
Gay men and religion have a sorted relationship. Religion is used too often to demonize us and our relationships even though many guys hold religious and spiritual beliefs in higher powers, as they define them.
Gay men and religion have a sorted relationship. Religion is used too often to demonize us and our relationships even though many guys hold religious and spiritual beliefs in higher powers, as they define them.
December 22, 2011
11:12
Yesterday I wanted to know what character traits you look for in a man. Today I want to take a look at the body. But I don't want to just step outside. We're more than our physical characteristics and so the inside matters too. For a long time, probably since birth, we're told that real men are this tall, this wide, this muscular and with this posture. Real men grill, they don't eat tofu. A man's man knows that the steak is king on plate not the salad. A guy's guy only works on the outside because he's strong enough to tackle what's inside on his own. But, what about you and I? We're men. Real men that may not fit all of this characteristics.
December 21, 2011
15:52
I'm on of those starry-eyed guys. Some would call me a dreamer. Despite my eagerness to grumble about the world on its rear end, deep down I believe that there is a place of happiness for all of us if we can just get over that one thing I've grown to hate most: labels.
December 20, 2011
09:15
Flipping the top to a bottle of lube is a good habit for most gay men who have anal sex, but researchers warn that your favorite lubricant may not be as safe as you think... Read more.
Your Lube Might Not Be Safe originally appeared on About.com Gay Life on Tuesday, December 20th, 2011 at 13:15:30.
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